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1-2-1 Mindfulness Coaching

Being human means we all experience anxiety, uncertainty and overwhelm at times. Ironically it’s part of our survival mechanism but if we don’t know how to handle it properly it can cause chronic stress. This has never been more so than in the challenging times we face at present. So what can 1-2-1 mindfulness coaching do to help?

It’s natural to experience stress and anxiety but how to navigate them is not so clear. This is why we need tools to help us build up our resilience and a powerful tool to help us with this is mindfulness.

The 1-2-1 approach focusses more intently on particular issues therefore mindfulness techniques can be applied most effectively. Having the time and space to work in this way helps to move beyond difficulty and challenge.

As with any mindfulness approach it is important to talk and ask any questions before you make a decision. This is why we recommend our free consultation as your first step in this process. It seems to be working for our clients…

“Simon instantly put me at ease and made me feel comfortable from the first coaching session. I really enjoyed the course and I’m pleased to say I still practice regularly. It really sets my days up! In the evenings I make time to be thankful for the good experiences in the day and accept the not so good. I think the main impact for me is that I no longer react (aka snap!) in situations. That has been truly life changing for me, and has massively reduced my overall stress levels! ” – Tamsin Roberts. Space Plus Architectural Design, Bristol

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Workplace Mindfulness Consultations

If you’d like more information on mindfulness training in the workplace please get in touch to arrange a consultation.

As a member of the Workplace Mindfulness Community we offer workshops tailored to your organisation to resource individuals and teams with tools of mindfulness that can prevent burnout and increase employee wellbeing and happiness.

Read more about workplace mindfulness here.

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27/02/202327/02/2023

Mindfulness as a tool to build Resilience

What is Resilience?

My friend and mindfulness colleague, Karina Furga-Dąbrowska, is the Chief Mindfulness Officer at Denton’s Global Law Firm and she recently produced this helpful article on resilience. I’m grateful to Karina and Dentons for allowing me to reproduce it here.

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So you think the glass is half-full, eh? Evolutionarily speaking, it’s probably half empty. You are much more likely to notice, react to, and remember unpleasant, distressful and negative experiences than good ones. Our brain has this negativity bias hard-wired in to ensure our survival, as individuals and as a species. Throughout human history, those more attuned to danger were more likely to survive.

Despite the sad demise of sabre-tooth tigers, our survival mechanism remains. Dangers come in the shape of tight deadlines at work, heavy workload, job insecurity and in the personal sphere rocky relationships, illnesses and family worries. This stress can impact our health, disturbing the body’s internal balance.

It’s absolutely normal to have difficult moments, triggering negative emotions. But it’s how we deal with it that counts. How we react to those “dangers” – the challenging situations, emotions and feelings that we all inevitably experience as human beings.

“People are not afraid of things, but of how they view them.” – Epictetus

According to the Cambridge Dictionary resilience is “the ability to be happy, successful, etc. again after something difficult or bad has happened”. There is also another definition: “the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity” which is a great metaphor for a resilient person.

Think of someone you believe is resilient. Why are they resilient? What approaches do they use?

Do you recognise any of these characteristics of resilient people …

Aware of situations, their own emotional reactions, and the behaviour of others.
Maintain control of a situation and think of new ways to tackle problems.
Overcome major difficulties without engaging in dysfunctional behaviour.
Keep energy levels up under pressure.
Smoothly adapt to changes.
Quickly bounce back from difficulties. Have strong social connections (friends, family, co-workers).
Look for help (books, psychotherapy, support groups).

The power of resilient people lies in noticing, soaking in and building on positive experiences: developing a positive outlook and positive explanatory style. Many studies show a direct link between resilience and happiness and meaning in life.

When the road gets rocky, what do you do? Where do you find the inner strength to manage during difficult times of uncertainty to support your coping and resilience?

Building Resilience with Mindfulness

“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung

You can develop a resilient mindset through practicing mindfulness. It is a powerful tool that offers the opportunity to make a radical shift in orientation. There are many ways to incorporate mindfulness into our daily lives. As we become increasingly mindful, we begin to respond from a place of choice. In other words, we opt for resilience.

We can develop inner resources that help us strengthen our resilience. These include: Continue reading “Mindfulness as a tool to build Resilience”

03/01/202304/01/2023

Working Mindfully with Anorexia

This is a powerful article that asks ‘how mindful can you really be with an anorexic child?’ Working mindfully with anorexia written by Hector, a client I coached a while back. Hector’s daughter wasn’t diagnosed at the time we worked together so this is a real-life story of how mindfulness can be a much needed support in times of intense challenge. Thank you Hector for allowing me to post it here.

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“Pause, and take a deep breath”

“Always put your own oxygen mask on first”

You hear this quote a lot if you have an anorexic child. Just surviving the unimaginable reality of this illness is often the best we parents can hope for. The importance of “self care” is constantly emphasised by the experts, and “mindfulness” is often suggested as one of the ways to maintain some sanity and hope.

But pausing and taking a deep breath can seem impossible when faced with the often violent resistance parents face. So finding the time, and peace of mind, to regularly meditate may seem faintly ridiculous to some of you.

I have to confess that I started doing mindfulness meditation a year or so before my daughter was diagnosed. I started with the Headspace app and then was coached by Simon Barnes. So it was easier for me to stick with it while in the trenches with the bullets flying overhead. Continue reading “Working Mindfully with Anorexia”

21/04/202221/04/2022

Mindfulness training: its scope and outcomes in the workplace

While it’s worrying to see so many people struggling with workplace stress and anxiety, it’s encouraging to see more organisations taking employee health seriously.

Here’s a brilliant article I spotted recently in the Human Resource Management Digest. It’s a literature review that helps us understand the scale of the problem and more importantly, it demonstrates how mindfulness is helping to tackle the issue.

Avoiding responsibility for employee mental health, either intentionally or unintentionally, is considered a poor business choice these days. Many organisations do take steps to embed individual and team mindfulness in the organisational culture but many fall way short. If this is true for you, maybe your workplace needs you to ask for it. If you work in HR, why not quote the article below to promote mindfulness in your workplace? If you need some help, just drop us a line here.

Modern business practice is characterized by constantly changing, competitive and complex environments with the increased demands of globalization and technological development. Demanding work conditions involving high performance requirements, heavy workload, deadlines and management of work and personal roles can in some cases lead to anxiety, stress, emotional exhaustion, burnout and health issues. In turn, this has an adverse effect on the learning and performance of employees and on organizational effectiveness, therefore employee well-being is an important consideration for human resource managers. One area of increasing interest to researchers and practitioners in the promotion of physical and psychological health is the practice of mindfulness.

A research paper by Johnson et al. (2020) examines the scope of mindfulness as an intervention in the workplace and identifies the outcomes of mindfulness training at individual, job, team/group and organizational levels. A literature review of twenty eight empirical studies is carried out using Torraco (2005) and Briner and Denyer’s (2012) four steps method.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the process of training the mind to pay more attention to the present moment, specifically to your own thoughts and feelings and to the world around you. This is a skill which can be developed through training using techniques such as meditation and relaxation exercises. The practice of mindfulness has been shown to increase resilience, emotional intelligence and concentration as well as improving relationships and self- awareness. As it helps individuals manage their day-to-day wellbeing and promotes emotional balance it is considered to be an up and coming approach to supporting employees with regard to mental health issues, burnout and work-related stress. Training in mindfulness is increasingly being introduced by organizations however research into the effectiveness of this training is limited and still in its infancy in human resource development literature.

The scope of mindfulness training in the workplace

The literature review identifies features of mindfulness training in the workplace from the 28 empirical research examined. Most studies have been carried out since 2015 within a positivist research paradigm examining mindfulness as an independent variable. Common themes are anxiety, depression, stress, compassion, turnover intention and job performance and findings have included enhancing working memory and slowing the aging process.

Most studies are carried out in higher education and health care setting but other industry sectors in which mindfulness training takes place include marketing, insurance, pharmaceutical companies, restaurants and service centers. Research findings are mostly published in health care and psychology-related journals as opposed to training, business and HRD related publications.

A range of training programs are used as an intervention the most researched being the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program developed at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center. Most programs have a similar format with an average running time of 8 weeks of 2 hour sessions. Training can involve a range of activities including formal presentations, meditation, mindful communication, mindful journaling and body awareness. The training is considered to be a cost-effective way of improving employees’ well-being and productivity. A range of measures are being introduced to measure the effectiveness of the training programs.

The outcomes of mindfulness training in the workplace

This study carries out an analysis and review of 28 empirical studies and identifies 51 significant outcomes of mindfulness training categorized at four levels individual (23), job (17), team/group (7) and organizational (4). At the individual level mindfulness training is shown to promote positive change in cognitive and emotional aspects. It contributes to increased well-being in employees through a reduction in stress, burnout, turnover intentions, anxiety, emotional exhaustion and distress. At the job related level it can increase job productivity and other job-related positive outcomes including job satisfaction, engagement and work-life balance. Group and team related outcomes include improved relationships between team members with more social support, reduced conflict, a sense of community and team cooperation and productivity. Finally, at the organizational level through mindfulness initiatives employees were more willing to engage in positive work culture and practice, leader procedural justice enactment and organizational mindfulness.

Practical Implications

The literature review shows that mindfulness training programs promote physical, psychological and productivity benefits however only a minority of organizations are putting this training in place. Leaders and managers should consider incorporating mindfulness practice as part of their professional development programs to improve performance levels within the organization.

The study’s findings demonstrate how mindfulness training can have an impact at the job level improving employee productivity and performance. As such assessment of mindfulness traits could be a valuable tool for the recruitment process.

In addition leaders could consider the design aspects with regard to physical space as they introduce the practice of mindfulness and take ideas from institutions which promote a mindful state in their members for example retreat centers.

Commentary

The review is based on “Mindfulness training in the workplace: exploring its scope and outcomes”, by Johnson et al. (2020), published in European Journal of Training and Development The purpose of this study is to carry out a literature review in order to examine the scope of mindfulness as an intervention in the workplace and identify the outcomes of mindfulness training at individual, job, team/group and organizational levels. The results find 51 significant outcomes of mindfulness training categorized at four levels individual (23), job (17), team/group (7) and organizational (4). Therefore leaders and managers should consider incorporating mindfulness practice as part of their professional development programs to improve performance levels within the organization. This paper has an original approach by providing a summary of the scope and outcomes of mindfulness training at a range of levels within the organization.

References

Briner, R. and Denyer, D. (2012), “Systematic review and evidence synthesis as a practice and scholarship tool”, in Rousseau, D. (Ed.), The Oxford Handbook of Evidence-Based Management, Oxford University Press, Oxford, pp. 112-129.

Johnson, K.R., Park, S. and Chaudhuri, S. (2020), “Mindfulness training in the workplace: exploring its scope and outcomes”, European Journal of Training and Development, Vol. 44 Nos 4/5, pp. 341-354, doi: 10.1108/EJTD-09-2019-0156

Torraco, R.J. (2005), “Writing integrative literature reviews: guidelines and examples”, Human Resource Development Review, Vol. 4 No. 3, pp. 356-367.

02/03/202202/03/2022

Something to Ponder

I often get asked how much practice we need to make it worthwhile. I don’t know who came up with this quote but I wish I had…

“The difference between one minute of meditation and two minutes of meditation is one minute.

The difference between one minute of meditation and no minutes of meditation is infinite.”

Why not practice as you ponder!

23/08/202124/08/2021

Can companies actually help workers stay happy and healthy?

Here’s a great blog by Kate Morgan that caught my eye recently. It looks at the growing need for us all to take care of one another, and employers’ responsibility to create a supportive work environment. Brief workshops for well-being activities, such as mindfulness, don’t cut the mustard. A sustained and meaningful approach is required if we are to take our mental health seriously. Over to Kate…

More employers are providing mental-health benefits to employees. But is this what workers want – and can they actually help keep people well?

When Eliza, 31, first went to work at a large US investment firm six years ago, it was a “’we don’t talk about our feelings at work’ kind of place”, says Eliza, who is withholding her surname for job-security concerns. “It’s money, so it’s all about numbers, numbers, numbers. There was no place for a compassionate work culture. That’s what I felt like I worked in for years.” Continue reading “Can companies actually help workers stay happy and healthy?”

06/07/2021

Awareness of Breath and Body

The awareness of breath and body practice is a staple in mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness guides us to use the experience of the breath and the body because they exist in the present moment. This is exactly where we need to be if we want to get away from the busyness of the mind.

I know this sounds so simple, and in many ways it is, but as with all mindfulness meditations, we’re up against the autopilot mind. And this character does not like being in the present. Far from it. The mind is constantly referencing past experiences in order to navigate to the best outcome in the future. In itself, this isn’t a bad feature of the human mind, it’s just that quite often the process can become relentless and exhausting. It’s precisely at this time that we need to recognise overthinking is not our best option and do something different.

Stop overthinking and Sit

We need time to disconnect from rumination because if we haven’t solved the issue in a sensible amount of time, continuing can do more harm than good. Research shows we become more clear-thinking and productive by taking time out to calm the mind and body. So a short mindfulness meditation not only saves you from unnecessary stress and worry, it also gives your cognitive resources a boost. How many situations can you think of where this would be a sensible option to take?

The great thing with this short sitting practice is you can do it anywhere. In a traffic jam, during your lunch break, sitting in the park, waiting to see your doctor, or even sat on the loo!

I notice lots more people sitting with their eyes closed these days, and why not? Once you are familiar with the simple steps of the guidance you can self-guide. It doesn’t have to be perfect, you just have to follow your intention to pay attention to the direct felt experience of sitting and breathing.

Here’s a 10 minute sitting practice to get you going. I hope you enjoy.

06/07/202106/07/2021

Loving Kindness Practice

Finding time for the loving kindness practice on a regular basis makes a whole lot of sense but it’s a practice that can feel a bit awkward to start off with. It took me a little while to get comfortable with it but perseverance really did pay off and I heartily recommend it.

In this blog I’ve included a short version which offers a practical glimpse into the power of this practice. In a more formal setting it would be at least twice as long as this one because the full practice explores more levels of emotional energy. The benefit of starting small is that it’s easier to get a good foothold and realise the benefits for yourself before the deep dive.

The basic principle behind loving kindness practice is to remind us of how good love and compassion makes us feel. We readily offer them to family and friends but forget to save some for ourselves. This behaviour carries a warning i.e. your reserves won’t last long and you will suffer. We need to let in loving kindness not just give it out.

On the other side of the coin, this practice reminds us how holding on to negative energy can be health-sapping. Conversely, by releasing ourselves from ill feelings and resentment is liberating and health giving.

So how do we do this? Simple, just do the practice and find out. I hope you enjoy this short version of the loving kindness practice.

05/07/202120/06/2022

The 3 Step Breathing Space Practice

Being a mindfulness teacher I often get asked “what’s a quick and easy bit of mindfulness you can share with me?” And to be honest I don’t like the question because it assumes mindfulness is about quick fixes, which it definitely isn’t!

What I am happy to share at times like this is one of my favourite practices, the 3 step breathing space. I call it a pocket-practice because you can carry it with you and use it absolutely anywhere. The results can be transformative and once you’re practiced enough to run through the steps without thinking about it you can literally do it in the time it takes to breathe in and out.

So what’s so good about the 3 step breathing space?

All mindfulness practices help us to focus attention on what’s going on in the present moment and usually this is done formally, with time taken to prepare a space where you won’t be disturbed. The 3 step breathing space is what we call an informal practice, which makes it more flexible and perfect in real time situations.

For example, imagine you’re having a difficult or challenging conversation and you’re getting triggered. Anger and fear rise automatically and before you know it you’ve said something you regret.

This kind of reactivity is dangerous because it happens so quickly and can feel quite norma i.e. just part of who we are. The next time a similar situation arises it’s easy to repeat the pattern. What we need is something to break the cycle and this is where the 3 step breathing space comes in.

The practice in action

Now imagine the same conversation except this time you’re aware of the sensations of being triggered, maybe tightness in the tummy, a frown on the forehead, buzzing in the brain etc. As you acknowledge these early warning signals, rather than subconsciously riding along with them, you increase your mental capacity enough to remind you where you might be heading. You’ve stepped off the ‘stress express’ and with a simple out-breath you’re able to speak calmly and consciously. This is the 3 step breathing space in action but, as with all mindfulness practices, it takes practice to use it skilfully.

Try it for yourself

This may sound too good to be true but I guarantee that with some practice you’ll soon get the gist of it. Do the practice a few times a day and when you feel familiar enough with the 3 steps you can experiment and make it your own. Good luck.